tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739626901516882530.post8824291943779868508..comments2023-06-18T04:20:13.705-04:00Comments on Lord, Guard and Guide: Why I'm Freaking OutStinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08515879495463225411noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739626901516882530.post-398304876402351142007-11-29T21:04:00.000-05:002007-11-29T21:04:00.000-05:00Thank you both for "listening" to me vent my worri...Thank you both for "listening" to me vent my worries. And thank you for being specific about things. I think that really helped. For whatever reason, whenever I've mentioned my worries, (which isnt' that often...readers probably think I'm going nuts, but really it's just all in my head) it's all been a very vague "I'm nervous" and "Don't worry about it" "It will be fine" which wasn't helping the mental list of everything that could go wrong. Michelle, I think your list of things helped me to focus my energy a little. I was swinging from "writing every little thing down" to "I don't want my in-laws to think I'm completely crazy and not write enough down". I think I'm also really concerned about them (my in-laws) living in my house and how vulnerable it makes me feel. <BR/><BR/>Enough, though. I am going to focus on what is important, celebrating my mom's birthday and spending some quality time with my husband since there definitely has not been enough of that with everything that has been going on. <BR/><BR/>Thank you again ladies. I know you have busy lives and I appreciate you taking the time to help lil' ol' me.Stinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08515879495463225411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739626901516882530.post-60728571956445579862007-11-27T23:25:00.000-05:002007-11-27T23:25:00.000-05:00I am kind of serious about not thinking about it. ...I am kind of serious about not thinking about it. The kids will cry. They will miss you. They will get up in the middle of the night. The grandparents will be exhausted...but...<BR/><BR/>...they won't be nearly as frustrated as you would be if your kids acted like that with you, because the grandparents will know that you will come back in a week, and the kids will no longer be their problem.<BR/><BR/>You can't wave a magic wand and have the kids all happy and perfectly behaved when their normal life is disrupted. Give the grandparents permission to do things any way they want: no nap, no problem; ice cream for breakfast, sure!; TV 24/7, whatever makes you happy. I'm not saying you should <I>encourage</I> them to forego naptime, I'm just realistically pointing out that your children will not go to sleep for them the way they go to sleep for you. Let the grandparents do what they see best - bribes or whatever - to get through the week with everyone happy.<BR/><BR/>I would write up a really bare bones guide to what the normal routine is: approximate nap times, approximate meal times, specific meal routines (like cereal for the baby for lunch, jarred veggies for dinner, whatever). <BR/><BR/>I would remind them about food limitations: honey, peanut butter (if these are in your house and you think they might serve them...I know they now recommend keeping PB away from kids until age 3, but this "rule" has only been around for about 5 or 6 years...not sure what advice you were given).<BR/><BR/>I would make sure they had phone number for the pediatrician and knew the procedure for urgent care and emergency care in your area. Also, I would see about a medical permission slip for them to get treatment for your children in your absence. This would help in an urgent situation.<BR/><BR/>I would make sure they had contact numbers for you (obviously).<BR/><BR/>I would think up a few places the kids like to go (nearby playground, McDonalds with indoor play area?).<BR/><BR/>And then I would just not worry about it. The routine will be messed up and it will take a week for things to get back to normal, but your 2 year old will quickly understand that Grandpop hands out lollipops and mom doesn't and Grandma will let you stay up until 10 pm, but mom won't.<BR/><BR/>And in 2 years, they won't remember it at all.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14591234069872271083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739626901516882530.post-49039400834548328542007-11-27T16:40:00.000-05:002007-11-27T16:40:00.000-05:00Yes, you will always worry about them. Since you ...Yes, you will always worry about them. Since you do trust your in-laws so much, it will help. Also, remember that big sister (even though she is so young) will be there. She will also take comfort in her little sister being there. You guys were just at their house in October, right? So, there won't be as big an adjustment period there for the kiddies.<BR/><BR/>My main advice to you is to pump while you are gone. Don't worry too much about the frozen supply. She IS also starting solids. She may get more solids that you might want while you're gone, but I've left my little ones while they were nursing, and they always picked right back up where they left off. One of them actually decided that nursing was the thing and decided to forgo solids for a couple days.<BR/><BR/>Just remember that, yes, you will worry. That is naturaly. But, yes, you can go <B>guilt</B> free. That is the big difference.<BR/><BR/>Good luck! Have fun!Kristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04589107941801563478noreply@blogger.com